Be like Koenji. Koenji couldn’t care less about other people opinions. No one cares anyway. It’s all in your head. In reality, me and you are not as important as we think we are in other people lives. Do you remember the last time you classmate did something embarrassing back in 4th grade? No you don’t, cuz you don’t care. But that classmate to this day remembers at night and doesn’t wear that specific haircut , or doesn’t dress up a certain way, or stoped talking to girls or something. The truth is that asking people on internet who care even less about you. All they care about is whether it is funny or not to get themselves a good laugh. That’s it.
No one not only wouldn’t care. That’s too much too expect. No one even remembers you and me exist in a first place. Let alone that you had this embarrassing back pack. Why? Same reason you don’t remember all people you met. Do you wake up in the Morning and think off all embarrassing moments people did? No. Why ? Because you got your own life to live, busy picking what backpack to choose from, what to eat, how to do your goal, how to keep yourself healthy and well. You got your own life to run.
That’s why it is all in your head. The only person you should orient yourself around and ask opinion is DO YOU LIKE IT? If answer is no, then don’t wear it. If the answer is “yes for the memes” then wear it and smile when you put it on. No constantly looking at other people faces to see how they react to your backpack.
Be who you want to be. Be free. The biggest handicap is the fear of falling short of people’s expectations of you. Who you don’t care about anyway and who don’t care about you anyway. Be like Ayanokoji who went to ANHS to be free from his Father expectations. His father said “I can make a better life for you in WR”, Koji said “I will decide for myself what life is better for me and what is not”.
Choose actions that reflect your true self, and as result you’ll get results that would only happens if you made those specific choices. Do what inspires you, do what makes your eyes lit up. Do what you see as inherently valuable, that you would look at yourself in a mirror and say “If I can do that stuff just like that person, I think that would be pretty dang awesome and cool. I would become cool in my eyes.” You would make your dream come true. The genuine reflection of how you feel. Do that. Focus on that!
If you think that cool teens don’t wear that, then don’t wear it. If you think that this back back is cool anyway and you want to wear it despite anything, then wear it. Because when will be the next time you’ll be able to go to university in your favorite back pack? Or would you rather go to university with back back you never wanted to wear?
It seems small, but it is not small to YOU. Because it is Your life. And your life consists of those small choices.
If you make 20-50 of these kind of choices: what to wear, how to talk, with whom, what apps to use. What life to live. It will absolutely transform your life.
Treat yourself as you would treat a friend. What if your friend came to you and ask about back pack but you can clearly see that he wants to but too embarrassed. You would encourage him/her! Why? Because you want to see the sparkle in their eyes and smile that they do what they think is awesome ! You want them to stay true to themselves in that part of their character
Stay true to your character. Build your own dreams. Because if you don’t- no one else will. And you will live for the rest of your life wishing you did differently cuz now it sucks, and you do things you never wanted to do.
Life is tough already. Life breaks people already. Those people who killed and shunned their characters are depressed or constantly depend on something else.
Be happy
