So this is going to be a doozy and I'm probably going to regret writing this out to Reddit World but here goes:
I'm a 31-year-old guy living in the SF Bay Area. I'm not going to say my real name for obvious reasons. I'd really just like to hear some helpful feedback or maybe assurance that I'm not totally crazy for feeling a particular way with her role-playing.
Okay, so I met this beautiful, attractive woman in her late 30s two years ago. I was 29 and haven't been in a long-term relationship for a few years so it kind of felt like a weird turn of fate that I would hit it off someone like her, especially during the craziness of post-COVID land . I met Alyssa (not her real name of course) during a get-together one of my co-workers was throwing at his house. It was one of those mutual friends gatherings where all these mutual friends happened to trickle in and join the party. Alyssa was one of those.
She actually approached me and I remember her being pretty flirty from the get-go. At first I thought she was either drunk or fucking with me, so I tried to awkwardly (and kindly) break away from her during convos but then one of my buddies told me (out of earshot) she doesn't drink at all and "is just like that." So I figured she was just one of those super extroverts you hear about and basically spent some time getting to know her. After about an hour or so of hanging out at the party, I actually found she was really cool. Lot of joking and smart as hell. After the party, I asked her out and within a month or so of dating, we were pretty serious. It didn't bother me she was older or that she was quirky (even more so than me lol), and I was happy to be with someone I clicked with again.
So to fast forward, we've settled into our couple phase and things are pretty good. And then one day, things started to get a little strange. So, I love roleplay in the bedroom. It makes sex fun. And she loves it, too. The thing is, she has this very specific fetish where she loves to "play mommy." I'm all for the MILF stuff and getting into that (it's especially a turn on for me that she is older than me), but she started getting obsessed with being this kind of angry mom character during sex. And when I say "angry mom," let me break down how it went down one night:
So we're messing around and we're basically having a good time and then out of nowhere (and I fucking kid you not) she tries to pin me down on the bed and she growls in my ear "I heard what you did at school today." And then she slaps me so fucking hard and then kisses me. I'm like "um, okay." It was weird but still hot. But then, she grabs my chin forcefully, looks me dead in the eye, and says "Do you hear me, young man? Do you want to get the belt?" And guys, I'm honestly at a crossroads where I'm turned on and kind of spooked because she slaps me again and says "alright fine. We're done." I'm laying there confused and she jumps off and grabs the belt off my pants laying across a chair. I'm still letting her indulge in this but I regret it the next second when she comes flying at me swinging the goddamned belt like Zorro. She smacks me twice with it and she sounds angry as fuck, too! I'm thinking she's gotta be fucking with me and I start to laugh and I try to wrestle her back onto the bed, and she whips me right in the ass with the belt! HARD! Like I broke Grandma's fine china or something. I'm howling and jumping over the bed to get away from her. She's standing there heaving and staring at me like she's not done but then she looks at me remorsefully and says "oh, I'm sorry, baby. Come here. Mommy will make it better."
At this point, I'm confused as to where she's taking this but I go and embrace her and she brings me over to the bed and starts caressing my head slowly, purring in my ear like a freaking cat. This went on for like 10 WHOLE MINUTES! I tried to move at one point and she told me "mommy isn't done." I realized the night wasn't going to end the way I thought so I said I was tired and we went to bed shortly after.
After that, she loves to incorporate this "angry mom" RP in the bedroom. It got to a point where one night she was chasing me throughout my apartment with the belt and I had to hide in the damn bathroom while she calmed down. We spoke about this and I told her that while I enjoy it, she needs to tone it down with some of that stuff. She doesn't see a problem with it and tells me it gets her really hot to be playing that role. But when I told her beating the hell out of me with a belt and saying "that's for taking the car out without my permission!" isn't doing it for me, she actually started rolling up her sleeves and walked over to me, and said "give it to me NOW!"
Guys, I honestly don't know what to do. She only does this stuff when she's in the mood (the majority of the time), so I'm wondering if she's just really trying to live out this power fantasy or that she might be having some other feelings crop up that could be an issue. She's not a bad person but whenever she's in the mood, I gotta worry about getting my ass beaten with the belt. I've tried talking to her multiple times already but she loves doing it. Thoughts?????
